So yeah...pretty epic fail I know..it's been about 2 weeks?? hahaha I think it's safe to say I will not be neccissarily writting a blog everyday, however, that doesnt mean I'm not thankful for something everyday it simply means I cant post everyday, espcially since my laptop once again has something wrong with it and other people use the main computer in my house so sorry about that. But I got a good topic today if I do say so myself hahaha
So I'm taking this child development class and one of the things my teacher taught us yesterday really stuck out to me. Well you know when a child is really young they soak up so much information in such a small amount of time especially within the first few years. So in their minds there is two stages that they go through when experiencing the world. Equilibrium and Dis-equilibrium.
Equilibrium is when everything makes sense to them and everything is perfect in the world, and dis-equilibrium if you can guess is when they are lost and confused and things are out of wack to them. The example she gave is that when she taught her 2 year old son what a doggy was, he had to learn that it had 4 legs, 2 ears, it was furry, and it had a tail...and the 2 year old was cool with this, he was in equilibrium because the world made sense. Then he went on a walk and saw a cat for the first time and he turned to his mom and said "look mommy a doggy!"....and when that 2 year old heard his mom say "No baby thats not a doggy that's a cat" the 2 year old (in his mind) went a lil crazy. In his mind all he's thinking is "what, what are you talking about, what the heck's a cat?! No! 4 legs, 2 ears, furry, and has a tail THAT'S A DOG! Now you say its a cat..whaaaat??!" ...the kids in dis-equilibrium because something doesn't make sense, and children go back and forth between equilibrium and dis-equilibrium soo often literally every minute this happens when they are little and learning all these things about the world. Now before you go feeling bad for them cause they are constanly confused and thrown off course with life's curve balls. This next part is what cuaght my attention. She said that in these moments of confusion and dis-equilibrium, with the proper guidance from parents, these are the moments where the child learns the most! When the child has no challenges and is in easy equilibrium it's not learning! These moments of confusion are where the child can learn some of the biggest things and this is where their understanding of the world is greatly enhanced (again with the proper guidance).
What was funny to me is that....as I thought about it I realized this doesnt end after the age of 5. YUP! Hear I go bringing faith, and life, and God into it! hahahaha I mean seriously though life.....it sucks sometimes. It's not always going to make sense, you're not always going to get a clear answer. Things and people are going to hurt you. But it's in these moments of confusion and hurt and being lost that we have the opportunity to grow and learn so much about life, and even to learn so much about ourselves. When life is easy peezy lemon squeezy, sure it's a lot more enjoyable and definitly appreciate those times and make the best of them, but there is also something to appreciate about the not so easy moments life gives us.
Here's the difference though bewteeen a 2 year old going through dis-equilibrium and an older kid or adult going through it. Remember the child can learn so much if given the proper guidance by the parents. However, when you're a teen, or a young adult or older getting that "proper guidance" is really up to you. I'm pretty sure I've said this before considering its somehting I really believe...Happiness is mostly a choice. Yes things cause us to feel a certain way but only for a small amount of time and after that it's up to us if we hang on to that feeling or not. Why would you want to hang on to anger, or sadness, or jealousy, or anything other than happiness?? When life doesnt make sense and you feel you're going slightly insane, it's up to you if you want to stop being sad and confused. You CAN NOT always solve the problem, but you can change how you think about the problem. Reorganize priorities and remember what's important in your life. Take that opportunity to grow and learn and change for the better. Take that opportunity that comes with EVERY fall in life.
So if you're going through a confusing time and things are not making sense at all and you wanna call a cat a dog haha.....look for that guidance, for that peace. I cant tell you who that "proper guidance" is...maybe it's a person you look up to who is hopefuly a good role model. I personally think music can sometimes be the proper guidance in some cases, you know you hear a song and remember whats important in life it's great haha...not that anyone asked but call me corny but God has always proven to be a pretty good "proper guidance" type person in my life. Faith is what gets me through but again I have to go find it and sometimes I dont wanna fidn it (that would be the stubborn 2 year talking hahah) but eventually I knwo that I want to find peace of mind and I know that there are certain peopel in my life that I can go to, and they alwasy point me back to my faith....I've grown a lot because of them but I've really grown a lot because of all the things I've had to over come in life....you're gonna be ok, you'll get that equilibrium and you're going to be stronger because of it, just keep the faith :)
